The Connection Between Self-Worth and Bad Habits

If you struggle with your feelings of self-worth and confidence, you may want to examine your habits. You could have some behaviors that are contributing to your feelings of low self-esteem and learning to identify and then change these can help raise your opinion of yourself as well as improve your overall confidence. 

You may engage in some seemingly innocent behaviors that are contributing to your problems with self-worth. Or, you may allow others to treat you in ways that discount your strength and contributions. Knowing how your habits affect how you think about yourself as well as act toward others is essential to improving your sense of self and bolstering your confidence in your capacities. 

Bad Habits that Damage Your Self-Worth

Treating Yourself Too Harshly

You have an inner monologue that is continually running through your mind. Whether you are consciously paying attention to it or not, it’s always there. This constant stream of words can either lift you up or tear you town, depending on what you are saying to yourself. Are you continually criticizing yourself? Are you always the first to put yourself down? 

The words you say, especially to yourself, matter. Your mind hears them and internalizes them. Listen to how you talk to yourself and make an effort to make these words positive and uplifting. Focus on your strengths and give yourself compliments. 

Not Having Clear Boundaries

If you want people to respect you, your time, your belongings, and your space, you have to create boundaries. When your boundaries are unclear, though, it allows others to take advantage of you, which in turn leaves you with a lack of self-worth and respect. The bad habit of unclear boundaries means others are more likely to place their needs above yours.

Don’t allow people to disrespect you by taking advantage. Make your boundaries clear to others, and when those are not respected, stand up for yourself. This will provide you with a sense of empowerment and strength that can help build your esteem. 

Comparing Yourself To Others

Comparing yourself to others in real life and on social media is a destructive habit that can be draining your self-worth. Whether you are judging others to bolster your own confidence, or you judge yourself based on your perceptions of others’ lives, living through comparisons is not healthy for your sense of self. Focus instead on your own values, beliefs, and needs. Measure your successes against your own goals, not those of someone else. Comparison is very hard on your self-worth, so avoid it all costs. 

Surrounding Yourself with Negative People

You may not even realize that who you choose to spend time with can have a significant impact on your self-worth. While the negativity of others represents their own bad habit, your poor behavior choice is continuing to spend time with people who offer very little positive energy to your life. These people will drain you of your confidence and optimism, so break the bad habit now and release the toxic people from your life if you want to improve your self-confidence. 

Final Thoughts

These are just a few of the negative behaviors you may have that could be contributing to your low sense of self-worth. Examples of others include always saying yes to others, doubting your instincts, avoiding taking chances, not forgiving yourself, and apologizing when you’ve done nothing wrong. 

Any behavior that doesn’t lift you and support your emotional, spiritual, intellectual, and physical growth and health should be critically examined for revision. Learning to change these bad habits can help improve your sense of self. 

You Are What You Think

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.” - Henry Ford

Forget believing that you are what you eat. The larger truth is that you are what you think. There is only one person responsible for your thoughts and that’s you. In truth, you are capable of changing your life for the better, just by getting your thinking under control. 

What type of self-talk do you indulge in? Troubling thoughts regarding a situation may be your instinct telling you there’s danger. However, your negative thinking may be an act of self-sabotage. 

We all have an inner voice leading up. Many people imagine the inner voice as two warring shoulder advisors. Whether you consider it to be your conscience or not, that inner voice seems to be taking everything it. 

You wake up in the morning and the voice is there, whether it starts speaking immediately or not. It follows you throughout your day and it’s that voice that has a nasty habit of keeping you awake as you toss and turn at night. 

 Conversations With Your Inner Voice

What does your inner voice say to you? Does it tell you that you’re good looking and wonderful as you gaze in the mirror getting ready in the morning? 

Or, do you notice every flaw and exaggerate it? Do you see the weight gain after a rough few months? 

Does it hone in on the gray hairs peeking through? Those may sound like little things, but it speaks to the tone that your inner voice takes. 

The negative tone can derail your motivation and destroy your resilience. It’s the quickest ticket to sap your energy. 

It can make pretty much every situation seem much worse than it truly is. The ability to take the tiniest problem and turn it into the worst case scenario is a gift that sadly, many of us possess. It’s the voice that keeps whispering to you that the worst case scenario is the most likely one. 

Before you reached that conclusion, though, you stopped off at all of the other dark timelines. The imagination is a wonderful thing, but it can easily turn on you to create nasty situations. How can you overcome a challenge that your own mind has created? 

More importantly, how can you respond adequately to a threat that your mind has blown out of proportion? Your response is likely to be a gross overreaction to the true situation. For example, you have been laid off. This would be a difficult situation for anyone to experience, especially if it comes from nowhere. 

The natural response is anger, anxiety, sadness, and frustration. What is your inner voice telling you, though? The right response is to start looking for a new job. If your inner voice is telling you that you are hopeless and unemployable, this will be much more difficult.

Why?

It shows, especially in interviews. It started as a thought, but it spiraled beyond that and had an impact on everything. That’s the power of thought. 

There is only one day to handle this and that is to change your attitude, which means you need to improve your self-talk. That means that you have to be aware of your self-talk, listen to your inner voice and when you hear it taking you down the wrong path, you need to correct it immediately. You are the victim of your own negative self-talk. 

When negative thoughts start to creep in, it isn’t about laying blame or finding someone else who did this to you. It’s about correcting your inner voice and steering it to more positive thoughts. 

You really are what you think. So, what do you think?

Capt. Sarab Sandhu

https://topsuccesssolutions.com/blog-category

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Drinks can be delicious and drinks can be refreshing, but did you also know certain drinks can straight up BURN FAT?

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 To your success.

Captain Sandhu

Top 10 skin care tips

Healthy skin is really one of the most important ingredients for beauty-enhancement. This article on skin care tips is an effort to bring the 10 best skin care tips to you.  The list of skin care tips has been restricted to 10 because anything more that that would not only be difficult to remember, but also shadow the more important skin care tips. So letís see what these top ten skin care tips are:

* Knowing your skin type is one of the most important skin care tip. This is important because not every skin care product suits everyone. In fact, all the skin care products specify the type of skin they cater too.

* Drink a lot of water. This will not keep your skin moist but will help in overall upkeep of your health (and in turn your skin). It might seem a bit awkward to some, however, this is an important skin care tip.

* Cleanse your skin regularly (1-2 times everyday).  A very effective skin care tip that helps in getting rid of the dirt and other harsh elements from your skin. Cleansing is especially important when you have been out of your house (and hence exposed to pollutants, dust etc). This skin care tip also advocates the use of Luke warm water for cleansing (hot and cold water, both, cause damage to your skin)
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* Be gentle, after all it is your skin. Don't scrub/exfoliate too hard or too often. Similarly, don't apply too much or too many skin care products. A must-to-follow skin care tip.

* Keep your skin moist at all times. This is one of the most important skin care tip.  Don't let your skin get dry. Dryness causes the outer layer of your skin to break, leading to a rough and unattractive appearance. Use moisturisers/ emollients. Moisturisers work best when applied while the skin is still damp.

* Avoid the use of soap on your face. Soap should only be used from below the neck. A small but important skin care tip.

* Use sunscreen to protect yourself from sun's harmful UV radiations. You can use day-time moisturisers that have sunscreen built into them. Use them even when itís cloudy. UV radiations are known to cause skin cancer, so follow this skin care tip without fail.

* A bit of exercise and good sleep are essential too, not just for skin care but for your health as a whole. Lack of sleep can lead to formation of wrinkles below your eyes and lack of exercise can cause your skin to slack. Moreover, exercise and sleep also help in beating stress.  So besides being a skin care tip, this is also a health care tip.

* Treat skin dilemmas with care.  This skin care tip is about not ignoring any skin dilemmas. Consult your dermatologist before you go on to use a skin care product (lest you do end up harming your skin even more).

* Beat the stress. The harmful effects of stress are known to everyone, however, sometimes stating the obvious is essential too (and hence this skin care tip found its place here). Yes, stress harms skin too. So, take a break or indulge in a warm bubble bath or just get good sleep.

Love and Light

Sarab Sandhu
CaptainWB
www.sarabsandhu.com

Should you take the largest mortgage possible?

Be it at the home purchase stage which means making the smallest down payment possible, or refinancing and taking out the maximum amount of equity, many Canadian today believe that they should have the largest possible mortgage.



It seems that gone are the days of working to retire debt free, and to own your home out-right.  It is this exact reason that the government has restricted the rules around mortgage lending, to try to curb the attitude that our homes are ATM machines.

We tend to forget that a mortgage is essentially assigning title to the home or granting ownership of the home to a lender.  Yes, equity remaining in the home is ours and we benefit from increased value, but we do not truly own that home until it is debt free.  If we do not pay the mortgage, the lender has the ability to remove us from the home.  For people who took advantage of 100% financing, until they are in a positive equity situation, they are in truth renting that home as the money they are 'investing' is paying off debt.

In some situations maximizing the equity in your home might make sense.  With a structured investment plan in place, you can make that equity work for you.  But it is also important to remember that mortgage interest is calculated as compounded interest.  I have yet to see an investment plan that so favours the investor by paying a return that is compounded at the same rate.  That is not to say that using equity as an investment tool is not smart, it just means that we have to be careful to place our funds in the right investment.

The same applies to using equity in your home for home improvements.  A renovation can dramatically increase the value of your home, but then also consider a few things before you proceed.  Are you doing the renovations in order for the home to better function for you and your family or are you doing it simply to increase value?  What are your plans with the home - live out your days there, or sell in the next five years?  All of these questions and many others need to be taken into account before you make the decision to move forward.

If you want to renovate your home because you want to improve functionality or better enjoy the aesthetics of the home; your choices in finishes might be very different then if it is to get the home ready for sale.  For instance: I once saw a home for sale in a middle class neighbourhood which proudly advertised that the kitchen sink was a unique high end designer brand.  Out of curiosity I went online and looked it up... I was shocked to discover that the sink came with a price tag of just over $10,000.00 Canadian.  I also found a sink that looked almost identical for $900.00.

I can't speak for everyone but I just can't justify in my mind paying ten thousand dollars on a sink, as I am sure most people would agree.  The point is, renovations need to make sense and need to fit the home and the neighbourhood if it is your intention to simply increase the value.

This is where speaking to professionals comes into play and illustrates the need to have someone who is truly Looking out for your best interest.  Be it consulting with a design professional, a realtor, investment advisor or a mortgage broker - we need to make sure that our decisions make sense for our own personal situations.  It is why shopping for a mortgage by only comparing interest rate can seriously impact our financial situation in the future.

Home ownership needs to be about much more than having the biggest and best home or a mortgage with the lowest interest rate, it has to make sense and align with our lifestyle and financial goals.  We need to be smart about the decisions we make today to better prepare for our future.  It is why at CENTUM we encourage you to look beyond just getting a mortgage and getting a home ownership solution, the CENTUM Solution.

5 Ways to Energize Your Day

Straight to the Five best routines to energize you day.


1.      Gratitude Prayer      (Benefits – Triggers your auto immune system)

Wake up 15 mins before your normal wake up time. A quick trip to freshen up, drink a glass of warm water ,then find a place to sit erect with neck and spine in a straight line,  Be still, close your eyes and say a Gratitude prayer and instructions to send fresh energy on each organ and sense.

Take a deep breath where you take fresh energy and exhale through the object, the body part, of your intention – taking away the impure energy (on your exhale). 

• For your consciousness and perception faculties

• For your sense of Hearing- try to hear something internally

• For your sense of Touch – imagine feeling something internally

• For your sense of Sight – Imagine seeing a pleasant sight with your eyes closed.

• For your sense of Taste – Imagine tasting something you like – does your mouth salivate.

• For your sense of Smell – Imagine smelling a rose if you can

• For your Throat energy centre and all organs associated with the- Respiratory System

• For your strong and healthy heart – the Circulatory System

• For your healthy Solar Plexus area , two inch above the navel, Digestive system (stomach, intestines, gall bladder, pancreas, liver)

• For your healthy Sacral Centre  - the Reproduction Organs, Kidneys

• For your healthy Root Centre – the system looking after all waste from the body

• For your healthy hips,thighs, knees, shin and foot.

• For your healthy shoulder, arms, elbow , wrist and hands.

• Tell the Mind with intention that if you have missed any part to correct it also.

• Say Thank You Thank you Thank you and now open your eyes

You can have as many breaths at each point, with time your entire Gratitude Prayer should take 5 to 6 min. 

You have ensured that each and every part of your body was bathed in new energy which ensure that reproduction of new cells will be healthy as per your DNA instructions. 

2.     Meditation  (Benefits – You are consciously finding the calm state of mind while awake. This is the wellbeing state of  mind)

• Can play some pleasant instrumental or meditation music – it will help

• Close your eyes again, while sitting erect with neck in line with the spine.

• Make a sound while inhaling through your nose. 4 to 5 secs

• Hold your breath for 5 secs.

• Make a humming sound while exhaling through nose- 7 to 10 secs

• Repeat this inhale, hold and exhale 24 times

• Open your eyes and take a big stretch. YOU are READY for what you have to offer this DAY
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You can do both #1 and #2 in continuation and allow 15 mins.  

The humming sound while inhaling and exhaling is to prevent any coherent thought being processed by you.

3.     Exercise   (Benefits – You help your auto immune system.)

• Do any exercise which will stretch or use your muscle groups by rotation for 15 Mins daily.

• Do gentle stretching of your neck and spine – 5 stretches.

4.     Breakfast    (Benefits – With optimum blood               sugar levels you make better decisions.)

• Have a healthy breakfast- Egg white, Bran/Oat cereal, Grapefruit, Tea/Coffee, Skimmed milk, High Fibre Bread – suggestion, avoid -  egg yolk , butter and bacon unless you exercise 2 hours a day.

5.     Pre Pave your day. ( Benefits – You have a path to follow otherwise you may go in circles !)

• Make your intention as to the flow of activities you wish to accomplish during the day. When you achieve your small milestones you feel empowered.

You now spend the rest of the day giving your best.



CaptainWB
http://mortgagewise.info